How to Establish Mental Freedom

eternal_sunshine_by_velocitysc43As the 4th of July approaches here in the United States we celebrate our freedom and independence as a country. Yet, all of us know that this Holiday means so much more then that. Besides the patriotic aspect, I also look at the celebration of freedom on more of a personal level.For myself, feeling mentally “free” is an on-going battle. I stress out way too much over things I have little or no control over. I worry about things that haven’t happened yet or may not even happen at all and I dwell on the the past. I’ve spent countless nights awake in bed wondering why I didn’t do or say something differently. As an intelligent logical person I know how this is a waste of precious time, but logic kind of goes out the window sometimes.

For a long time I felt that I could only feel “free” if I fixed certain things about myself or my life. The truth is the only thing that was holding me back from feeling “free” was myself. It took me 32 years to come to this realization and to be honest there are days when I have to remind myself I am in control of myself.

One of the most “freeing” things you can do immediately is to stop taking things personally. Falling victim to others negativity and criticism takes up a large amount of energy. Doing this is easier said then done, but it is truly liberating.

Another helpful tip- accept things for what they are. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, “it is what it is.” Just accept it. Don’t belly ache over what something should/could/would have been. Move on.

If there are people in your life who are just weighing you down with their drama and negativity, it is time to cut them loose. It’s unfortunate, but sometimes friends and even family can be toxic. Don’t allow yourself to be victimized by these emotional vampires. There are so many loving, loyal, and accepting people out there.

Finally, practice forgiveness. When we forgive someone we release any of the power that we have over us. Forgiveness is not about saying whatever happened was “okay” it is more about just letting it go.

Happy Independence Day to all!

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Stop feeling badly about yourself

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Lately I have not felt like myself, and have not had much motivation to blog. Right now I’m in one of those ruts where it’s very difficult to motivate myself to do anything, especially school work. I’m burned out.

Art school is demanding. No matter how creative you are or how much you love art, you’ll reach a point that you will feel like you’ve been sucked dry of imagination. It’s not that it is hard, but you’ve crossed the line between something you used to do for enjoyment to something you are now doing to make money. Then there is the criticism that makes my eyes roll so far back into my head. It’s not that I can’t handle constructive criticism. I feel it is necessary in life so that we can grow as people. Yet, I do not believe we should change who we are to meet the approval of others nor should we change our artwork to suit the likes of others. There have been several times I’ve had to scrap projects and do them all over again just to meet the satisfaction of a Professor even though I put a lot of effort into my project. Art is subjective, or so I thought. So I began to question myself and if I am doing the right thing. Is my artwork good enough to not be bad, but not good enough to be great? Then my confidence goes out the window and I start doing things the way other people want them rather then what I want to do.

Then comes the peer comparisons. There will always be people who are better at something then you are. As an Artist you must acknowledge and accept this from the beginning. Comparing yourself to others is discouraging. Competing with others is unproductive.  Being pretentious and full of yourself is ignorant. Admitting that you make mistakes, learning from them, and continuously working to improve yourself is honorable.

In times of frustration it is important to remember this.

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Struggles Curvy Girls Know Too Well

If you are a “curvy” girl who often struggles finding clothes that fit properly you MUST watch this video:

Being a “curvy” girl I have experienced all of these struggles firsthand. I’ve been fighting clothing to make it fit as long as I can remember. When I was a teenager in the 90’s (ugh, saying that makes me feel so old), it was extremely rare for any store to carry a pants size larger then an US size 11. All I wanted was a pair of flared jeans! Eventually I resorted to buying mens jeans, which actually fit better then womens, and made my own flared bottoms by cutting them up and sewing pieces of fabric on to make the bottoms wider.

Thankfully, things are different now and many stores carry larger sizes and cuts, but the search for the “perfect fit” still has many pitfalls. I could be a size 14 in one retailers clothing line and a size 10 in another. The size I need is sold out roughly half of the time. Shopping is beyond frustrating at times, but once you find an item that fits your body perfectly, you feel that extra boost of confidence and know that you look amazing!
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  • If you are shopping online, read the reviews! Most online retailers offer a rating system on items they sell. Many reviewers include their measurements or body type so you can better gauge how it will fit you. In turn, post reviews yourself to help out other ladies.
  • Can’t find your size in the store, but it’s available online? Try on something similar at the store in the size your looking for to get a better idea on how it will fit.
  • Fabric that provides stretch is your best friend.

I don’t believe in “one size fits all,” because each of us have our own unique shape!

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Blogmas Day 3

BLOGMASFirst I have to mention that I just realized yesterday’s Blogmas post was titled “Day Too.” That is what happens when you try to get some blogging done late at night before bed. How embarrassing! I swear I have good grammar.

Anyway day number three is a photo of my Hello Kitty countdown to Christmas decoration. Technically we celebrate Christmas on Christmas Eve. This year I am looking forward to a casual evening at home with my Husband and cats. As you get older you develop your own Holiday traditions whether that be with your family or the extended family and friends you’ve accumulated throughout the years. Even though it is just the two of us, I love our little family.

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Friday Favorites September 19th

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1. OPI Nail Polish in Lucky Lucky Lavender In my opinion, this color looks more like a darker pink rather then lavender. When I picked it up I thought it looked like a bubble gum pink. After applying a few coats it is a shade or two darker then bubble gum pink. With my favorite combination of  Gelous Nail Gel Base Coat and Seche Vite Top Coat, I was able to keep this polish on for almost an entire week!

2. Alba Botanica Even Advanced Deep Sea Facial Mask I randomly picked this up at Target a few weeks ago on a quest to try inexpensive face masks. This one in particular is supposed to aid in evening out skin-tones. The texture is thick and creamy, but just a small amount goes a long way. I put a thing layer on around my face and waited until it dried (about 10 minutes) to wash off. Immediately, I felt a tingly sensation on my skin once it was applied. Since it is not a typical face cleanser, I used a warm wash cloth to wipe it off my face. It left my skin feeling clean and very soft. After a few uses I have not had a problem yet with break outs from using this product. This product is $6 at Target and definitely worth trying.

3. Make Up For Ever HD Microfinish Powder After running out of this powder that I’ve been lucky enough to use one jar in the course of 5 years, I was so hesitant to buy it because of it’s $34 price tag. It worked wonderfully, but I still wanted to try to find something a bit cheaper. I purchased Elf’s High Def. Powder for $6 at Target. The results weren’t very favorable as I felt like I was applying talcum powder to my face. Rather then setting in, this stuff just laid on my skin and made my face appear white. I didn’t use anymore then I did with the MUFE powder. So, I just bit the bullet and picked up MUFE HD powder. Again, this is a case of “you get what you pay for.” On the Elf site their powder gets great reviews but, it just didn’t work well with my skin.

4. Stories Seldom Fold Boot from Modcloth Although I do not own a pair of these fold over boots, I LOVE the look of them. Modcloth has several different styles and different colors but, they do not carry something similar in black. With fall steadily approaching I need to start searching for a reasonably priced boot.

5. Things I’ve Learned from Dying The topic of this book is rather somber and although I am not finished with it yet, I can easily tell that it will be one of those books that will stay with me forever. This book is non-fiction and written by David Dow, a Texas state defense attorney. In this particular book, he is defending an inmate who is on death row. His goal is to keep this man alive. Dow incorporates this case along with his father in law who is dying of cancer and his dog who eventually also passes. As the title suggests, this book is about the journey that Dow takes through the deaths of those around him. Originally, I was not sure if I wanted to read this book because it sounded so heart wrenching. So far, the book has included some sullen moments but Dow’s writing is rather witty, which keeps the readers emotions at an even key. As I delve further into the book I am sure it will pull on my heart strings a bit more. The reality of it is dying is a natural part of life. Books like this teach us how appreciative we should be for our own lives and the lives of others we care about. What you have today may be gone tomorrow.

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